There is something that scares most man even more than losing the controls to their latest video game and that is rejection. In fact, this has been something that has plagued him ever since he was a child. In grade school, when he was trying to be break in to his new group of friends, the last thing he wanted was to do something wrong and be rejected from the group.
Now, he is all grown up and single. He will tell himself everything from “the sun will not come up in the morning if I do this” to “this is too forward and I would be violating her space” to stop himself from telling a woman about his interest in her. So, again, he remains single.
Online dating sites are now a possibility in his mind, after all, it has to be easier finding a woman on there than in real life. Wrong! Online dating sites may be one of the best ways to find that woman, but the chances are still likely that he will experience, yes, “rejection” as well. Women on online dating sites receive so many messages that it is impossible to keep up with all of them. So they pick and choose the best messages and profiles to respond to.
Now, there is something to be said about what online dating sites can do for you. When your message isn’t responded to by a woman of interest, what do you do? What should you do? In fact, what should you have been doing from the moment you became a member of the dating website. Spreading your wings. Yes, that means sending messages to a good number of women. Most will probably, yes, “reject” you. So, what do you do now?
Online dating sites can actually give you good practice for approaching women in real life. The more women you send messages to, the more likely you will experience rejection. But here’s the thing. If you practice enough, you will get to the point where the rejection just becomes another day in the life of. Heck, you can even wear them with pride, like the badges on a general’s uniform.
Once you get to that point where you simply don’t care anymore, you will become a stud. Yes, that’s right. You will not be afraid to send messages to women on dating sites. You will not be afraid to approach women in real life either.
What do you see when you walk out there into the real world? How many attractive women do you see at the arm of an average looking guy? Lots. Your problem is not your looks, it’s your fear. When you get over that hump of fearing “rejection” you are well on your way to success in the dating game.
Look, this is the way I see it. If you do not take a chance and spread those wings while you are at it, you will be alone on your death bed one day wondering where you went wrong. Life is all about choices and taking chances.
Yes indeed, men, rejection is good.