Try to keep it relevant.
Take a look at the person’s dating profile and ask them an open-ended question that is relevant to it.
Try to find something that they talked about in some detail.
This often means that this is a topic that they are passionate about.
If you were to ask this person that you matched with on an online dating site an open-ended question about something that they wrote passionately about on their profile, you will have a higher likelihood of getting a response.
Asking an open-ended question will often make it easier for your match to respond because you would give them a reason to.
People often make the mistake of sending very ineffective messages when they try to open up conversation with a match on an online dating site.
They will often use words or phrases such as, “Hey,” “Hi Beautiful,” “Hello,” “Would you like to chat,” etc.
All of these are highly ineffective.
They don’t give the recipient any impetus or motivation to respond.
All it really tells the recipient is that the sender was too lazy to start a proper conversation.
As a result, they will most likely ignore the message.
This is why it is always a good idea to use an open-ended question to start conversation with your match.
Using information that your match has already provided in their online dating profile makes it so much easier to know what to say in your first message to them.
You don’t have to do a lot of guesswork in trying to figure out what would be a good topic to start with.
You already have your match’s online dating profile as your guide.
It is also important to understand that although you have gotten a match, you shouldn’t instantly assume that this is someone that you need to start a conversation with.
Sometimes, you will get a match that actually isn’t the right one for you.
It is crucial that you take the time to thoroughly go through this person’s online dating profile before deciding to send them a message.
In essence, try not to allow how attractive the person is to keep you from making sure that this is someone that is actually a good match for you.
By being this thorough, you avoid instantly messaging someone who may ultimately become a waste of your time.
If you feel that this is a good match for you upon thoroughly going through their online dating profile, a good way for you to open up conversation with them would be to find something in their online dating profile that you can relate to.
Perhaps you have had a similar experience to something that they described.
Open your message to them by giving them a short but descriptive anecdotal account of what your experience was like and then end it by asking a follow-up question that relates to that experience in question.
This will be a more detailed message.
However, contrary to what some may think, a detailed anecdotal message is often very effective when opening up conversation.
As long as it is written well, you can often grab someone’s attention and imagination.
If they enjoyed your short anecdote, they will often feel inspired to respond to your message.
They will not only do this in order to answer the follow-up question that you left at the end of your message, but also to ask you more questions about the story you told.
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