You will come across some people who just won’t go out on a date with you on a dating site because they never intended to go out with anyone.
It has nothing with them being scared of a date.
This is an unfortunate part of online dating.
However, it does happen.
If you have come to a point where you have been talking to a number of people that you have been unable to get dates with, it may be because you are dealing with these kind of people.
To avoid constantly wasting your time with people like this when online dating, it is important that you establish what their intentions are earlier on.
Ask them about what they are looking for.
Do not merely assume that they are looking for the same kind of relationship that you are, simply because it says so on their dating profile.
People will often say that they are looking for a particular type of relationship on their dating profile when in fact they aren’t.
They do this because they hope to receive as many matches as possible.
They believe that by inputting the popular thing to say in reference to what they are looking for, they will get a lot more attention from people.
Unfortunately, this may be all that they are looking for.
Once they are able to get people like you to send them messages and begin interacting with them, they feel important and bask in the attention.
These may be people who are lacking in attention in their real lives.
This is why it is important that you actually ask these people about what they are looking for when you are interacting with them.
Again, do not simply make assumptions based on what they wrote on their dating profile.
If they tell you that they are looking for the same kind of relationship that you are, then it is crucial that you don’t allow your interaction with them on the dating site to stretch for an unnecessary amount of time without asking them out.
This is often the mistake a lot of people make when they are online dating.
They take too long to ask a person out or request a meetup.
You shouldn’t make this mistake.
If you have both established that you are looking for the same kind of relationship and have proceeded in consistently communicating with each other over the course of a week or two, you can ask that person to meet up.
In other words, you shouldn’t allow your interaction with this person to stretch into several weeks or months before asking them out.
This is how you protect yourself from people who aren’t intent on meeting up.
No one who truly has gotten to like you through getting to know you on a dating site is going to be scared to meet you on a date.
After all, they are the ones who chose to join a dating site in the first place.
If you are dealing with someone who is merely on a dating site for the attention, they will find ways to either stall a date with you or may just ignore your request entirely and try to change the topic.
If you come across people like this, it is best to stop communicating with them and move on.