First and foremost, you need to know what you are on the dating app for.
Are you looking for a long-term relationship, casual relationship, etc.,?
Knowing why you are on a dating app makes everything else so much clearer.
A woman who has, “I don’t know yet,” under what she is looking for in her dating profile is troublesome.
She has a nonchalant disposition.
This means that she isn’t emotionally ready for anything serious at this time.
Think about it.
A woman who is seeking a serious long-term relationship would know that this is exactly what she is seeking.
There isn’t any doubt.
An “I don’t know yet” implies that the woman has a lack of emotional availability and could still be dealing with the emotional reverberations of a previous relationship.
The last thing you want is to go out on a number of good dates with this woman, believe that everything is headed towards a promising partnership, only to see her on the dating app again actively looking to meet new guys.
With a woman like this, you are going to have a very difficult time getting her to commit.
Being that she isn’t emotionally available, the moment she gets a sense that a guy is getting too close to her, she is going to make it harder for that guy to keep communicating with her and taking her out on a consistent basis.
She is triggered, as whatever emotional trauma she has been going through since her previous relationship rears to the surface and creates panic within her.
Unfortunately, in dedicating the time and effort in continuously talking to her and taking her out on dates, you are stuck in the middle of her emotional turmoil.
It doesn’t matter how good the conversations and dates have been.
A woman with emotional turmoil can hide it for a while, forcing it to the back of her consciousness.
However, it always returns, especially as the two of you get closer, because it is an insecurity that she has chosen to overlook and remedy.
Instead of working on healing herself from within, she decided to join dating apps with the intent of using them as her therapy.
In talking to and going out with men, she hopes to be distracted so as to forget about what she is going through emotionally from within.
This never works.
It leaves guys like you with a lot of pain and regret once you realize that regardless of how well everything has gone between you over several weeks, she doesn’t let you all the way in and ultimately starts pushing you away.
She has an internal defense mechanism that kicks in whenever a guy gets too close.
This is what pushes you away when you get too close, sending her back to the dating app in search of a new victim.
When you are intent on finding a long-term partner, it is to your benefit to avoid dating profiles that have women stating, “I don’t know yet,” under what they are looking for.
On the flip side, if you are looking for a hookup, a woman like this, who is emotionally unavailable, would be a good candidate to swipe left on or message.
Just remember that hooking up with her is as far as it goes.
Don’t make the mistake of believing that hooking up with her regularly puts you on a path to becoming her boyfriend.
The moment she feels like you are asking too many personal questions or you are getting too close, she won’t hesitate in finding a new hookup partner on the dating app.