Online Dating: I Rarely Get Matches, And When I Do, Most Unmatch After I Send My First Message?

Online Dating: I Rarely Get Matches, And When I Do, Most Unmatch After I Send My First Message?

Since this has happened a number of times now, there is an underlying reason why you keep getting unmatched after you send the first message.

The first messages you are sending these matches aren’t of quality.

You rarely get matches.

On account of this, you must create better first messages so that you don’t miss out on the few moments you have to connect with a match.

Look back on the first messages that you send.

A first message that is a generic greeting such as, “Hello,” “Hi,” or “Hey,” isn’t sufficient.

Loads of people send first messages like this and it rarely works out.

It hurts you, keeping you from making the most of the few matches you do get.

Unless you are ridiculously attractive, these generic first messages lead to you either not getting a response or getting unmatched.

Although, it’s impossible to keep every match you send a first message to from unmatching with you, you mitigate this outcome when you send a first message of quality.

A first message that addresses information he included in his dating profile is a tried-and-true method of preventing a guy from unmatching with you after you send a first message.

Ask a question on a topic that he is passionate about.

This is what sparks his interest and intrigue.

For example, he isn’t used to women asking him a question about his passion for a hockey team that he mentioned in his dating profile, as their first message.

Most girls don’t care for sports.

It sets you apart when your first message references an activity that he is passionate about and most girls don’t care for or have a passion for.

This is how you stick out to him.

Doing this also sets you apart from the girls who are putting out an effort to send him a first message in reference to information he included in his dating profile, but are doing it the wrong way.

These girls reference an activity that he isn’t passionate about.

For example, she is sending him a first message that references information he included in his dating profile about work or school.

Boring.

Uninspired.

This doesn’t make her stick out nor get him excited.

These are topics she has in common with him, but they aren’t exciting.

On the other hand, you are sending a first message that is referencing an activity that he is passionate about and most girls don’t care for, such as sports.

This alone has you head and shoulders above these girls.

Use this strategy so that you set yourself apart from every girl, including those who send a first message that references information he included in his dating profile.

Always look for activities that guys have a proclivity to be passionate about and women don’t.

If you don’t see anything about sports or a sports team, look for something else.

A tech-related activity for instance.

A first message in this vain, gets him excited, motivating him to reply to your message, as opposed to unmatch with you.