Online Dating: Is It A Red Flag If I Say I’m Clingy In My Bio?

Online Dating: Is It A Red Flag If I Say I'm Clingy In My Bio?

A red flag it is.

Your intention is on the right track, as you want to be candid with potential matches about your approach to love and relationships, so that you don’t end up wasting anyone’s time.

This is a fabulous mindset.

That being said, executing this approach by saying that you are clingy is ill-conceived.

There is a negative connotation that is attributed with the word.

Although, you are fully aware that you aren’t unhealthily obsessive and needy whenever you are in a relationship, potential matches on a dating app who don’t know you won’t be privy that.

The instant assumption is that you are the type of girl who expects to be talking to her partner every minute of the day, can’t bear the thought of a partner being away for longer than a few hours, and is constantly jealous of a partner’s platonic relationships.

A potential match is already thinking about the worst case scenarios when he sees the word, “Clingy.”

You already know that you aren’t anywhere near that bad.

Yes, you want to spend a lot of time with a partner, but you do respect boundaries, and have no issue with a partner having the independence to pursue his hobbies, interests, and hang out with his family and friends.

Unfortunately, a potential match doesn’t know this about you.

The moment he sees the word, “Clingy,” he instantly assumes that you are the worst definition of it.

Every guy has heard horror stories of a clingy girlfriend from his guy friends, and dreads ever having to deal with a clingy girlfriend in his own romantic relationships.

Instead of saying that you are clingy in your bio, use a different approach.

Describe what you are like in relationships and what behavior you desire in a partner.

What is clingy to you?

Describe it, without using the word.

This is a much better approach.

It spells out what you are like in relationships and what behavior you desire in a potential match.

Write it with a descriptive approach and infuse your personality into it.

Saying that you are clingy, as opposed to describing what you are like in relationships and what behavior you desire in a partner, leaves it to a potential match for interpretation.

A single word can be so easily misconstrued.

Before you know it, a potential match has permitted his imagination to run away with what he thinks a clingy girl is.

If only he had read a description of what you really mean by clingy.

This is why you must avoid using the word.

There is nothing wrong with describing what you are like in relationships and what behavior you desire in a partner.

After all, you are on a dating app to find a partner that is the most compatible with you.

A compatible partner is the ideal.

A relationship won’t work without compatibility.

Don’t worry about the impression you give off when you describe what clingy means to you, without using the word.

Yes, not everyone is going to identify with what you write, but that’s alright.

You aren’t on a dating app to match with everyone.

You are there to match with the perfect guy for you.