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BoodHi, me and my girlfriend have be been in a Long Distance Relationship for almost a month. Even though it’s short, we feel like we both love each other and have a strong connection with one and another. We’re trying the best we can to meet each other in person as soon as possible. I feel like I can trust her 100% fully as I think I feel like she does the same to me. This is all new to us because we both never been in a relationship like this(except for me but it wasn’t intimate like this) There has this problem tho that came up yesterday. My friend is in a Long Distance Relationship as well. However he has some trust issues about his girl. He told me that I should put my guard up and that you never know what could happen. This made me think a lot and kinda got me a bit paranoid. So far, there has been no signs of her cheating and one time on the phone, she told me that she would never do that to me at all. I believe her but it’s like I still can’t stop thinking about what my friend said. Am I in the wrong for trusting her 100%?
Hi Bood,
Being that you have both decided to be in an exclusive relationship, you are not in the wrong for trusting her 100%.
No exclusive relationship can work without trust.
It can be very easy to get a bit paranoid when you are in a long distance relationship. You can’t always know what your long distance girlfriend is up to.
Hence, your mind can easily start filling in the blanks.
Unfortunately, your friend didn’t help matters by planting a negative seed in your mind that many people who are in long distance relationships experience.
However, your focus should be on making this the best long distance relationship that you can.
Talk often.
Meet as often as possible.
Have frequent conversations on when the both of you plan to be in the same area permanently and set that date.
Never lose sight of it.
Your best shot at making this long distance relationship work is in making sure that it doesn’t become a seemingly permanent condition.
At the moment, it has only been about a month and the both of you are still in the throes of passion.
However, the longer that this long distance relationship persists, the higher the likelihood that your fear that your girlfriend could cheat on you becomes all the more possible.
The most successful long distance relationships are the ones that started with a plan. Without a plan or direction, you are more susceptible to a long distance partner eventually cheating on you.
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