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Luke 3 years, 2 months ago.
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JennyHi
Hope u are doing well!I and my babe have been dating for 3 years and now he is suddenly losing interest, wouldnt text call much, wouldn’t take efforts to meet much, he has financial issues going as as he has no father and he is the bread winner currently, before his sister was who left her job, so to grab attention i downloaded happn and showed him that if he doesn’t give me time i get other boys and that made him further run from me and now he is ready to end relationship anytime we are also fighting a lot Lately
Another issue is that his mom nd sister dislikes me and he said he would convince them for me, now even that issue has come to surface, idk what to do!
Your help will mean a ton
Thnks sirHi Jenny,
Your boyfriend may be experiencing a lot of stress due to the fact that he is suddenly the breadwinner of his family.
He may feel as though you are not being sensitive to this as you are still expecting the same amount of attention as you used to receive from him in the past.
Talking to him and letting him know that you understand the kind of stress he is under could help in making him feel more at ease.
The both of you should then talk about making compromises when it comes to time together. He may be open to a new arrangement.
If you are willing to make some sacrifices when it comes to seeing him, there may be some consequent positive changes to his behavior.
He may start texting you more because he wouldn’t be afraid of having to answer repeated questions from you about spending time together.
If both his mom and sister dislike you, it may be to your benefit to ask your boyfriend about why they do.
What you learn may give you some direction on what you need to work on or do in order to get their approval, as long it is something that you are comfortable with.
Making this kind of adjustment could ultimately get his mom and sister to like you.
JennyThank u so much for replying sir!!!
He is youngest of the two and hence they are really fond of him, and me dating him makes them feel im snatching him away also im a bit chubby so that might bother them as well or me texting and chatting, i did have a talk with his sister and she has scolded me to stay away from his brother as we are not married and all that and his mom havent seen me yet and still does not like me. He he kinda a mummy’s boy and will always listen to his sister so kinda in a diff shape there what else should i do to not involve his family in our date life
Thanks againYou are welcome.
On the contrary, it may work to your benefit to involve his family to some degree in your dating life.
His mom and sister don’t really know you.
As far as they are concerned, you are someone who is interjecting into their tight family circle, like an interloper or invader.
If, for now, you make it a point to hang out or go out with your boyfriend and include his mom and sister, they will have an opportunity to get to know you.
Not only will they get a better sense of your personality and who you are, they will also be able to get firsthand evidence of how well you treat him.
Going out or hanging out like this, on a semi-regular basis for now, could help to ease all the tension that is going on between all of you.
It could get both his mom and sister to be more accepting of you and like you as a result, thereby reducing the amount of stress they put on your boyfriend in terms of their disapproval of you.
As his mom and sister become more comfortable with you and consequently trust you, they will not be as involved in your dating life and you will be able to have more freedom with your boyfriend.
So, this strategy will take some patience on your end.
However, with a less stressed boyfriend, you will most likely see more effort coming from him to chat and meet up on more frequent dates with you.
JennyOh yes! Then thats great news if it can be solved, i have tried to make meetups with his mom, she always ends it in a minute or two, even on calls will say good bye quickly! But if not meetup i can definitely think of ways to show her that i treat her child nicely and have no mean intentions whatsoever!
Really thank you!You are welcome Jenny.
All the best in your efforts.
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