I dated a person for 9 yrs. We had a huge argument in November we broke up for a day and he came back to ask to work things out and he said he loved me. But now the person is stating that he fell out of love with me in the course of the relationship and he was just going through the motions. But I also found out her was cheating on me as well with an ex. H then said he wanted to work things out but he was still seeing her and then said he was confused and then said he don’t want me. What is going on here and what should I do.
Telling you that he had fallen out of love with you and was only going through the motions may suggest that he only got into a relationship with you in the first place as a rebound.
This would mean that he never actually got over the breakup with his ex and only used his relationship with you as a means to cover up his emotional baggage.
If he has been repeatedly cheating on you with his ex during the course of your 9 year relationship with him, he will continue to do so even if the both of you were to seemingly work things out and get back together.
It would be best to end your relationship with him. Staying on would only lead to constant betrayal and emotional turmoil.