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December 23, 2019 at 2:16 am #21881
Hi Luke, I previously worked At the post office and Within my second month I Started to Notice me Feeling getting A crush with a guy Whom worked at the post office to. When I first started the job I And my crush had small talks about the workplace only and he will tell me things about the people and the job, ok. Later while I Was on the job my second month I really thought that the guy was handsome. But I didn’t show no interest with him cause the work environment I worked with alot of people that were in relationships with other employees or in other terms people sleeping with each other it was really alot of drama on the job, Overall I was the girl that was alot different I WASN’T into the drama, gossiping or the wickedness I did my best to stay focus on my job duties I did give mutual conversation with employees but it was more about work. Ok So later while I was working on the job I was sitting in the break area by myself and I will always be using my phone . So one Day I came into work Myself and my crush walked past each other but We didn’t make eye contact. So my crush came back to the same area as 1st and I was sitting and he walked pasted me and gave me a compliment he told me I looked nice. I said thank you. Ok maybe a week later my crush was assigned to work at the same work area where I was and When he entered he didn’t say anything to me probably cause he and my supervisor didn’t get along prior to the conversation we had Earlier when we talked. Ok so When he entered he was behind me and I was walking in front of him and he was quite I gave hi a Stare like I was happy and shy at the same time we was in the same work area so I continued working and my crush went to the side where no one can see him only me He was more like leaningon a pole chilling by hiself not saying anything he was therein the corner for 10 mins but while he was in the corner I started to get A Feeling that he was Staring at me or maybe something that was in the work area im not sure. He is a talker I see him most times talk to other co workers but when he entered where I was he basically chilled and it was like He was staring at me work. Can you tell me exactly what was going on with him at that moment was he maybe thinking about something? Or was he maybe staring at me and Thinking about me? Another week later I was sitting in the break area and he and his friend walked past me and he was walking behind his friend and When he got close to my space he stopped and said to STAY OFF YOUR PHONE AND WALKED AWAY SO I DIDN’T REALLY THINK MUCH ABOUT I THOUGHT MAYBE HE IS TEASING ME OR IM NOT SURE. CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT WAS HE TRYING TO SAY OR DO TO ME? Another week after I experienced a similar Situation with him I was on my break again but I was outside the workplace and I was returning back to work so my crush was leaving from work with his friend And he was walking behind his friend the second time coincidentally and He STOPPED AND SAID AND POINTED HIS FINGER AND SAID TO ME STAU OFF THAT PHONE AND I IGNORED HIM THE SECOND TIME AND THOUGHT NOTHING OF IT SO LATER THAT WEEK I WAS WALKING TO MY WORK AREA AND THE FRIEND HE WAS WITH SAID TO ME AS I WAS WALKING DONT NOBODY LIKE YOU! I IGNORED THE FRIEND AND PRETEND AS IF I DIDN’T HEAR HIM AND PROCEEDED TO WORK. OM WAS ATTRACTED TO MY CRUSH BUT LATER ON I FOUND OUT HE HAS A G.F WHEN HE MADE THE COMMENTS TO ME. SO I DIDN’T WANT HIM TO NO THAT I WAS ATTRACTED TO HIM.SO ANOTHER DAY I WAS ASSIGNED TO WORK IN HIS WORK AREA I VOLUNTEER MYSELF TO GO AND WORK WITH HIM I STOOD NEXT TO HIM AND WHILE I ENTER THE WORK AREA HE AND A DIFFERENT FRIEND WAS TALKING AND JOKING BEFORE I CAME BUT I NOTICED THEY GOT VERY QUIET, THEY WERE JOKING QND LAUGHING BEFORE I ENTERED BUT THAN MY CRUSSH GOT REALLY QUIET AND KEPT WORKING.I KNOW THE JOB I WAS WORKING FOR POST OFFICE WAS ALOT OF DRAMA AND GOSSIP I NEVER TOLD NO ONE I FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE. OR LIKED HIM. DO HE KNOW I HAVE A LIKING FOR HIM? DO HE MAYBE FINDS ME ATTRACTIVE? WHAT IS HIS MESSAGE HE IS TRYING TO TELL ME? WHAT WILL BE THE RIGHT THING TO SAY OR DO? DOES HE MAYBE TALKED ABOUT ME TO HIS FRIENDS? WHATS GOING ON PLEASE EXPLAIN. THANK YOUDecember 23, 2019 at 7:53 am #21884
When your crush was leaning on the pole, he may have just been taking some time out.
You were the only one who could see him from that angle.
Perhaps he just needed a little break from working and just wanted to be with his own thoughts for a while.
It’s best not to make the assumption that he was staring at you and thinking about you in that moment. Up until this point, there hadn’t been any sustained periods of eye contact between the both of you at work.
Thereby, there is a good chance that he was just leaning on the pole consumed with his own thoughts at that moment.
He probably said “stay off your phone” when he stopped at your workspace because he wanted you to pay attention to him at that time. It’s the kind of attention he may try to get from any other coworker irrespective of whether he was romantically interested in them or not.
It’s unlikely that he knows that you like him. You don’t gossip with the other coworkers and tend to focus on your job.
Hence, it is unlikely that the other coworkers have even caught on to the fact that you like him and told him as a result. As of now, he really wouldn’t have anything to go on as far as thinking that you like him.
Being that you haven’t repeatedly caught him staring at you, there is no indication so far that he finds you attractive.
It’s unlikely that he is trying to send you any kind of message.
When he got very quiet after you entered his work area, he most likely didn’t want you to hear what both he and his friend were talking about.
Being that the employees at the post office are prone to gossip, he and his friend may have been saying something inappropriate or gossipy about another employee at the time.
Once you showed up, they may have stopped talking and joking because they didn’t want you to hear about who or what they were talking about.
The right thing to say or do may be to simply be a good work colleague and stick to work-related topics whenever you talk to or work with him.
You discovered that he has a girlfriend. More than likely, this means that he is not emotionally available to you.
It wouldn’t be to your benefit to keep looking at him as someone with romantic potential.
You will interpret everything he says and does in your presence as some kind of sign of interest or a lack there of and this could truly affect you in a negative way mentally and even consequently affect how you go about performing your job duties.
He may have talked about you to his friend in the same capacity that he would talk about another employee. Again, you work with employees who tend to gossip.
Hence, it wouldn’t be a surprise if he has talked about you to some extent with his friend. However, it would be in the same way that he would talk about another employee.
It would just be gossip.
It doesn’t mean that the conversation would have anything to do with whether he likes you or not.December 23, 2019 at 9:39 am #21895
Hi Luke, Okay I have a question So both times when we walked past when we walked past each other He was checking me out maybe is that can be why he gave me a compliment? Later I was on break within the same week twice and my crush was with a friend and when he saw me both times he told me I needed to stay off my phone to maybe get his or my attention both times we made eye contact when he told me to stay off my phone he said it with a serious face Expression. There hasn’t been no contact since Cause I no longer work at the post office. I was thinking maybe when he told me stay off your phone did he try to signal me as that if I’m not on the phone with him than I shouldn’t be on my phone at all maybe?December 23, 2019 at 9:51 am #21896
When I Entered into the same work area as him I purposely got close to him to work due to me liking him at that moment when I was next to him he and a Friend was talking but not about no one it was like they where cracking jokes at one another than when he saw me they both got really quiet but before they were joking and playing but my crush stopped joking with his friend when I Entered into the work area. He usually always try to avoid me or not say anything to me nor look at me Could he maybe be shy around me? From when he came into my work area I got very shy and I was to shy to look at him from the angle to see what he was up to. But he left and when he was walking back I Stared at him while he was walking away. Could we both be feeling some tension or attraction from each other?December 23, 2019 at 10:06 am #21897
Hi Luke The work area that my crush was at There was another female there before I came and my crush and his friend were joking but when I came my crush got very nervous and quiet. Anytime he would say something to me but I started noticing how he will become avoiding me or not really give me eye contact he maybe could be a lil intimidated by me?December 24, 2019 at 7:33 am #21902
If he was checking you out the two times that you both walked past each other, there may have been something about your physicality that appealed to him.
Yes, it may be why he gave you a compliment.
However, receiving a single compliment doesn’t automatically indicate that a guy is interested in you romantically.
When he told you to stay off your phone, he was most likely just looking to get your attention. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he didn’t want you to be on the phone with anyone else but him.
Being that he has been bold enough to tell you to stay off your phone, he doesn’t appear to be shy around you.
Perhaps he avoids looking at you or talking to you because he isn’t quite sure about what to make of you.
He may not know whether you are someone that he can engage with wholeheartedly at work. It may be because he senses something about your body language that may not be particularly inviting.
You did state that you have gotten really shy around him and avoided looking at him in the past. This could be a body language factor that he is taking into account and as a result, he may be mirroring your behavior.
It is unlikely that you are both feeling a tension or attraction towards each other. You may be feeling it on your end, but he hasn’t shown any strong signs that he is having the same experience.
It’s unlikely that he is a little intimidated by you. Again, he has boldly told you to stay off your phone in the past.
It may have seemed that he got very nervous and quiet when you arrived in the work area as he was joking with his friend.
However, it may have simply been a feeling of discomfort being that he doesn’t really know you and may have been worried that you heard something that you shouldn’t have.
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