Does anyone find it harder to ask out attractive people on dating apps?

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    Benjamin
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    Looking back on the my matches and dates from dating apps, I noticed that I rarely asked out the people that I found the most attractive.

    My conversations with them would usually start well, but eventually die out before I ask them out.

    I believe that in my mind, I make these attractive people out to be out of my league and on some kind of subconscious level I just make myself believe that a date with them wouldn’t go well.

    This way of thinking really doesn’t make sense though, being that these attractive people swiped right on me.

    Can anyone relate?

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    Luke
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    Hi Benjamin,

    Yes, a lot of guys relate to what you are saying. They find it harder to ask out attractive people on dating apps.

    At the core of the issue is the fear of rejection upon meeting said attractive person on a date. You are so fearful of that, that you allow a conversation with the most attractive of people on dating apps to die out.

    As you stated, your way of thinking really isn’t warranted, being that these attractive people swiped right on you.

    It’s time that you realize that the way you look at yourself isn’t necessarily how other people see you.

    Stop being so fearful about rejection. People are out of your league only when you make them so. No one is perfect. These attractive people have flaws that you cannot see. They know it.

    If you keep putting them on a pedestal, you will lose out on opportunities to actually get to know and possibly get into a relationship with someone that you are actually the most attracted to.

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