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Luke 3 years, 4 months ago.
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ShiftyHey Luke,
It is me again Shifty with interest in a new girl.
Let’s start of that I am almost 15 and in high school and she is older. I do not know how older though. But I had interest in her the first time I saw her and that was 4 months ago. Since then we made eye contact almost every week and we sometimes said “good morning” or “hello” to each other. 2 months ago she raised her eyebrows at me and couple weeks later she gave me a half smile. Jumping forward to a week ago (Monday) she suddenly asked me what my name was. And we started talking. The thing is that the day after that until now she hasn’t even looked at me. And I don’t know what I need to do. She doesn’t even say hello anymore. And it’s tearing me apart. What do I need to do?Luciano
Hi Luciano,
She is probably not looking at you anymore because you haven’t tried to initiate a conversation with her.
It most likely took a lot for her to ask you what your name was and initiate a conversation with you on Monday after weeks of making eye contact with you.
However, you didn’t follow that up with trying to initiate conversation with her the next day. She may want you to take initiative and talk to her first.
Sometimes, when a guy that a girl likes isn’t doing what she wants when it comes to courting, she may start ignoring the guy out of frustration or to get him to act.
It is probably time that you act.
Try starting a conversation with her the next time that you see her. That could make all the difference.
ShiftyYo Luke,
So I she might be interested? The thing also is that she started ignoring me right after Monday. So I thought she wasn’t interested anymore. But I last saw a video of you saying if she ignores you completely she might be interested.
So you’re right I do have to talk to her. But it’s kinda hard because she is with her friends all if the time.Luciano
Hi Luciano,
Yes, she might be interested.
If she is always with her friends, you could try approaching her with a few of your friends. Have your friends engage with her other friends so that you can isolate her and talk to her on more of a one on one basis.
ShiftyHeya Luke,
I wanted to say thank you for the advice (a little late, sorry, man) but I asked this lay-dee out today. And she agrees to hang out, but not a date.
I asked if we could exchange phone numbers one time (I said “one time” and not “now” out if nerves) and she said yes. She did have her phone in her hands though but I said bye because again I was nervous as hell.Luciano
Hi Luciano,
Good job in making an effort to ask her out.
Did she specifically tell you that she would hang out with you but not go out on a date with you? If so, she may have a boyfriend or may not be interested in you romantically.
It would be a good idea to ask for her number the next time that you see her.
If she doesn’t volunteer it, she may have simply agreed to hang out with you just to be polite. If she does volunteer it, then you should engage in phone conversation with her soon after and ask her out on a proper date.
This will keep you from wasting your time with a girl who may only want to hang out with you as a friend and nothing more.
ShiftyHeya Luke,
She specifically said she wanna hang out with me, but not as a date. So that ship might be sailing away.
I haven’t seen her since I asked her out, and I won’t see her for 3 weeks because school problems (I am learning how to engage with costumers at a store for school, so I am not going to school) so I think it would be best just to let this one go. I did feel a real connection with her. I just asked her out to late I think.
If you have others ideas about what I should do, please tell me,
Thanks!Luciano
Hi Luciano,
Yeah, this ship has probably sailed, unfortunately.
You may have to move on from this one and just take this as a good life lesson.
Do not hesitate to go after what you want.
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