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November 21, 2019 at 4:02 pm #21270
I noticed her act different when I lost my job 2 months ago, weve dated for two years. Is there any hope of getting her back? and what should I do? PLEASE HELP!
This is the text my gf sent me:
“I want to first apologize for doing this through text but would not be able to get the words out if I saw your face. I love and respect you so much and I want you to remember that always. I think that we should take a break from each other for a while, and I think we can both agree we haven’t been the same for a while now. I don’t think anyone is to blame because sometimes people just grow apart. For the past few months I’ve been feeling suffocated with everything going on and that resulted in me being distant and not giving you the attention you are entitled to in this relationship. I love you so much and I don’t want to hurt you or cause you any pain but I feel like if we continue on like this it will just lead to a resentful and toxic relationship. I know it’s unfair to ask you to wait until I am ready to move forward so I won’t. I love you so much and we’ve been through so much together but I don’t think I can mentally take anymore right now. As people we are always growing and maturing and I want you to know I appreciate everything you have done for me in the for the past two years, you have helped me become an amazing individual and I can’t thank you enough. I apologize for being selfish but I feel like I need to take time to be with myself for a while. This is killing me but I think it’s for the best. I want to give you all the love and attention and relationship you deserve but I just can’t do that now, also I want you to know I will always have love for you and I’ll always be here for you but for now I need my space. I am so sorry. Please respect that and please respect out privacy and keep this between us.”November 22, 2019 at 9:31 am #21271
Your girlfriend seems to be sure about her decision to break up with you.
It appears that her resentment and unhappiness has been building up over time.
She asked for space but also told you not to wait for her.
This would indicate that she isn’t trying to save the relationship.
In other words, she’s not really thinking about the prospect of coming back.
If anything, she may be hopeful that you move on.
If you noticed a difference in her behavior when you lost your job two months ago, it may have been due to the dynamics of your relationship with her changing.
Perhaps she felt as though the both of you were no longer on the same path in life.
Perhaps you became a little bit more needy during this time or resentful that you didn’t have a job.
Regardless of what may have happened after you lost your job two months ago, she now feels the need to get away from you.
If you start making a lot of effort to try to get her back, you would only end up pushing her away even more because your desperate efforts would continuously remind her about why she decided to break up with you in the first place.
There is very little hope of getting her back.
It sounds like she has been thinking about doing this for a while.
This was not a spontaneous or sudden decision.
Again, this built up over time.
Normally, when a girl breaks up with you in this way, she’s pretty secure in her decision and most likely won’t want to go back.
Any minuscule hope of getting her back would require that you actually take a step back and leave her be.
Perhaps, with time and space, she may start remembering your positive qualities and the good times that you both had, and come to miss you as a result.
But, there are no guarantees that this will happen.
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