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Luke 1 year, 5 months ago.
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I keep telling myself not to get emotionally invested but putting that into practice with men I meet on dating apps has been a challenge.
At times, I get excited over men I meet on dating apps, only to have them ghost me later on. I end up getting really bummed out by it, causing me to delete the dating app and disappear from online dating entirely for about 6 months, as I am so sensitive.
But at the same time, I am fully aware that I should be putting myself out there.
How do I stop this cycle of constantly getting emotionally invested in these men who I don’t even know very well?
Hi Addison,
Think about how bummed out you get when these men ultimately ghost you. Think about all those days or weeks of conversation that go down the drain when he ultimately ghosts you. All that effort and time wasted.
Now, with that strategy in mind, the next man you get interested in on a dating app won’t have the same emotional impact on you.
Why?
Because the emotional pain that you have experienced from men who have ended up ghosting you in the past supersedes any amount of initial excitement you can possibly muster in this new man.
From this point on, these men have to earn your emotional investment. That will take a lot more than a few cute lines in conversation that would normally make you swoon. You are a lot smarter than that now.
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