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Without fail, it always feels like I am the one doing the heavy lifting when messaging someone on a dating app.
The scenario is always the same. We both match on Bumble or Hinge and I send her a message. I start the conversation and ask a question that gets a response, but not the kind of response that is conducive to a conversation. I don’t get a question back or even a comment that is thoughtful enough for me to respond to.
Even if I say something to make them laugh when messaging, it is still very much a struggle to get a real conversation going.
Yes, in most situations, men are the ones who do the heavy lifting when messaging girls on dating apps.
You can always weed out the girls who are more prone to giving you bad responses that aren’t conducive to having a robust conversation on dating apps. They normally have very short bios that actually don’t have much substance.
If you get caught up with how pretty she appears in her dating profile photos and ignore the fact that she has a clumsy, short and inconsequential bio, you are going to continue finding yourself having to keep conversations going with girls who have no interest in doing so.
Look for substance in a girl’s bio, where it is clear that she took some time to give you great information about herself for you to work with. Messaging girls with dating profiles like this gives you a better chance of getting into conversations with girls who are actually interested in having a conversation and keeping it going.
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