April 1, 2020 at 6:26 pm #24849
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I have been in a relationship for almost a year everything is going so well exept there is something that has been dissturbing me and I dont know what I should do Cause I dont want to send him any wrong signals. But lately my boyfriend has been complaining about his shop that he has open not so long time ago and he has borrowed money from someone but not that big amount but dosent have it right now to pay back but I guees hes trying to solve the situation so he can pay back. He hasnt ask me after nothing he just spoke to me about it and I ask him how much and didnt say anything more after that. But I have been going around and thinking of should I help him I want to but at the same time I dont want to give any wrong signal. What do you think I should do? Cause I feel like is hard and I cant speak about this to my friends Cause I know they will judge me… Thank youApril 2, 2020 at 11:26 am #24850
Your boyfriend hasn’t asked you for help with money. It is best that you don’t offer it at this time.
He is trying to find other ways to pay back this person that he borrowed money from.
If you were to offer him money at this point in time, you could open the door to future requests for money from you that could end up putting a lot of strain on your relationship with him.
His shop is going to have future expenses that need to be paid. If you give him the impression that all he has to do is come to you if he has to purchase or fix something for his shop or has a shop-related bill, he may decide to take the easy road and take advantage of that.
Your boyfriend did not start this shop with you. In essence, you aren’t his business partner. You do not owe him anything.
For now, let him go about solving this monetary issue on his own. It will help to build character and keep him from looking to you in the future to help him with shop expenses.April 2, 2020 at 6:51 pm #24865
Thank you very much🙏🏽😊
This helped me a lot!April 3, 2020 at 10:03 am #24867
You are welcome Zarah.
All the best.