when I’m not feeling sex at that moment, he thinks it’s him

[Jaden Ruiz]

I’m not at all a prude, I love a healthy sex life in my relationship. But there will be times that I’m on my period, in a bad mood or just want to settle down cuddle. My boyfriend doesn’t understand why I would even refuse sex at times. In the beginning of our relationship, we would be like rabbits, trying to get whatever little time out of our busy schedule we could get for sex. I get why he’s confuse, and it’s not that he pressures me at all. Though, I get that he would blame himself like “I’m not doing good enough” and “something’s going wrong in the relationship.” I love him to death, enough that I don’t want things to seem like all we do is sex. Quiet times for me are just as important. I’m sorry if this may seem unorganized, but Thank you for the read.

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Jaden,

If you both still have busy schedules, he may be wondering why things have changed all of a sudden.

This is why he could easily blame himself or think it’s him whenever you don’t want to have sex.

You may have to ask yourself about why your period, being in a bad mood or a desire to just settle down and cuddle wasn’t an impediment in the beginning of your relationship when the both of you were having sex like rabbits.

Perhaps, something within the dynamics of your relationship has changed that you may not be acknowledging at the moment.

In other words, when you are not feeling sex, it may not always be because you are on your period, in a bad mood or just want to settle down and cuddle.

Yes, these reasons may seem to be what is causing your reluctance on the surface.

However, there may be something about your relationship with him that has changed since you both got into a committed relationship.

Again, in the beginning of your relationship, you seemed to be able to have sex wholeheartedly, despite your period, mood or desire to settle down and cuddle.

Hence, there may be something else at play here that you may not be considering.

The sooner you figure out what that is, the sooner you will be able to address this issue with your boyfriend in a way that he will be able to understand.

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