When men on dating apps say, “Sorry, I don’t check this app often, but here is my number.”

[LunaParticipant]

This is something I have now experienced multiple times on dating apps. A guy holds off on responding for a day or so and then when he does reply he says, “Sorry, I don’t check this app often, but here is my number,” or something to that effect.

I know that many men on dating apps ultimately want to get the girl’s number. However, I just don’t like how deceitful this way of going about it feels. I have no doubt that all of these men check their dating apps at least once a day.

I also have an issue with just giving out my number to men I haven’t even met yet.

Am I overthinking this?

[LukeKeymaster]

Hi Luna,

You aren’t overthinking this.

Stating that they don’t check the dating app often and offering you their phone number instead is just another way to get your number in an attempt to speed the process of communication along.

You shouldn’t simply give away your number because he is divulging his. If you don’t feel comfortable giving that out yet, let him know that.

If he is truly interested in getting to know you, he will respect that and keep communicating with you through the dating app. If he doesn’t, let him go.

This is often a great filter that helps you weed out those who are truly serious about getting to know you and those who are just looking to hook up.

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