When you meet someone on a dating site, how long does it normally take you to start feeling emotionally invested and excited about them?

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    Scarlett
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    I normally get excited about the person when we have both set up a date and I am now waiting to meet them in person. The more I think about the meeting, the more emotionally invested I become. I know this is too soon, especially with someone that I have only known through a dating site, but I find it hard to stop myself from feeling this way.

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    Luke
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    Hi Scarlett,

    A lot of people get excited about that first meeting. It is perfectly normal to get excited about the person when you have had such good experiences with them on the dating site up until that point. Where you should be more careful is in the emotional investment part.

    You shouldn’t become emotionally invested in this person until you have spent a good amount of time getting to know them. You are too much in a hurry to find that long-term relationship partner and have your happily ever after.

    You shouldn’t be. You should use the early stages of dating as the time you get to vet a person to see if they are truly a worthy candidate for a long-term relationship. These are not the times to allow your mind to wander with delusions of a fairy tale romance.

    That can get you in trouble. Your mind can become so deluded that you overlook red flags that you are noticing about the person, just so that everything fits into that fairy tale narrative that you have created in your head.

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