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The photos you post on your profile are critical. Don’t take them lightly. So many guys blunder when they choose to post any old photo on their profile. It won’t work. It leads to a dearth of matches.
In your case, you haven’t received a single match. It’s time you overhauled the photos that are posted on your profile. Take some new ones. Better yet, have a professional photographer take them for you.
Choose one that specializes in taking photos for people on dating apps. This is a sound investment. A professional photographer that specializes in taking photos for people on dating apps is aware of the lighting, background, and angles that compliment your physical appearance.
Instead of wasting precious time pondering over whether you are too ugly for dating apps, invest in taking great photos from a professional eye, and your fortunes change on dating apps. Yes, that means you finally receive matches.
People have their preferences for who they want to match with. It isn’t the fault of dating apps that there are people who have a preference for dating within their race, or people who have a preference for dating a different race in particular.
These preferences exist in human beings with or without dating apps. People too often forget that dating apps are businesses. They cater to consumer demand. Since there is a consumer demand for race-based dating apps, they now exist in the online dating world.
The consumers who choose to join these race-based dating apps are doing so because said dating apps meet a need. This is a need that they had before the existence of dating apps. If dating apps disappeared tomorrow, this need won’t disappear. It’s in our nature to seek out a mate that looks like us.
And those who choose to seek out people of other races have their reasons too. After all, you can’t force people to be politically correct in who they deem attractive or worthy of lifelong companionship.
There will always be some form of polarization between the races.
Again, it’s human nature.
We all have our internalized prejudices about people of a different race. So do you. So long as humanity exists, this won’t change.
In lieu of getting too caught up in the weeds about this, focus on finding a compatible partner that works best for you, and let other people do what works for them.
The reality is, we all start as products. Before anyone takes someone else seriously as a potential mate on dating apps, requirements have to be met.
Human beings aren’t mindless robots. We see, think, and feel. When we are seeking a potential partner, what we see, think, and feel are extremely pertinent.
That said, what we see comes first.
Human beings are visual creatures. We have to like what we see before we allow ourselves to think and feel.
Purchasing a kettle on Amazon or eBay has similarities to how we go about picking a mate on dating apps. You liked what you saw when you were presented with that kettle as you were browsing through the options. This led to a click and a purchase.
Like that kettle, we are all products.
A customer has to like what they see on the outside before they are willing to explore what is on the inside.
Humanity has always been this way in how we go about finding a potential partner. Dating apps are digital outlets that are a mere reflection of our primal instincts.
Dating apps are a convenient way to meet people of romantic potential. Unlike traditional means of meeting people, dating apps give people the leisure to seek out a potential mate without having to be physically present in the early stages.
This is especially convenient for people who have a loaded daily schedule in the professional and personal lives. This convenience has helped in simplifying dating for numerous people.
Furthermore, dating apps provide a much larger sample of people to choose from.
There are only so many people we come across in our daily lives that are of romantic potential.
Family and friends only have a finite number of people they can introduce us to. Whereas, dating apps are filled with dating options. The more people there are to choose from, the greater the chances of finding a compatible mate.
It’s nice to hear that you have made friends on dating apps. Many people do establish friendships with people they meet on dating apps. After all, not everyone is romantically compatible.
If you are more consistent in how often you use dating apps, instead of stopping by every so often to see what’s out there, you are bound to achieve success in finding a compatible mate.
You just have to be patient.
The process of finding a compatible mate for most people takes at least six months to a year.
Can you give dating apps that much of your consistent attention?
If you can, then dating apps are definitely a yes.
There is no doubt that online dating apps have led to a frivolous attitude in dating where a lot more people than ever before are much more prone to getting into hookups, flings, and situationships.
This frivolous attitude wasn’t as widespread when online dating apps didn’t exist. With online dating apps, there is such a plethora of people to meet and date, it has created a mindset that there is no need to get so serious with anyone so soon.
After all, there are endless match options to swipe on each and every day. Yes, this perception has made a good number of men that use dating apps less patient when they haven’t gotten sex from a girl as soon as they wanted.
He believes that the next girl in his match queue is likelier to give him what he wants. So, he ditches the girl and moves on to the next match.
So long as online dating apps exist, this frivolous attitude is here to stay.
Since you want a serious relationship with a guy that waits for sex and courts you properly, you are better off joining a dating app that is reputed for serious relationships.
These dating apps exist.
Although it is not a complete panacea to the issues you have been encountering with men on dating app, these dating apps do lessen the chances that you keep matching with men who only want hookups.
It’s easier to meet guys on dating apps and get dates than it is in real life. The sheer volume of people on dating apps means that they present far more dating options than a person encounters in real life.
The thing is, you are most likely having a hard time finding dates because you are using the wrong dating apps. Using generic dating apps may not be the right option for you.
You are better off using niche dating sites that cater to the type of men you are attracted to.
Also, to get more dates with guys on dating apps, you shouldn’t be too quick to judge the guys who don’t have the best-looking pics in comparison to those who do.
There are loads of attractive guys on dating apps who don’t have attractive pics. At first look, it doesn’t appear as though they are attractive, but they actually are. Instead of being too quick to judge a guy by what you are seeing at first glance, take the time to have a closer look at his profile.
There is a good chance that he either has better pics as you go through his photo gallery, and if he doesn’t, you notice that he is actually better looking than his photos suggest.
You aren’t overreacting.
The guy that has been your boyfriend for several months has been on a dating app for a period of time, and did this behind your back. This is unacceptable. If your friend didn’t see his profile on a dating app, you still wouldn’t know that he is on a dating app.
Telling you that he is only looking for friends on a dating app is a complete lie. If he is seriously looking for friends, there are other more appropriate avenues to find friends online and offline other than on a dating app.
The only reason why he got angry with you after you told him to delete the dating app or you are done with him is because he wants to make it seem as though you are the one who is in the wrong.
In other words, he doesn’t want to take responsibility for his actions. By acting like it isn’t a big deal, he is hoping to make you question whether you are overreacting.
You aren’t.
There is no place for a boyfriend who is exclusive to you to be on a dating app. And no, the excuse that he is only looking for friends is lame.
The fact that he is only talking to girls on the dating app, and not guys, is further proof that all he cares about is connecting with girls on a romantic level on the dating app.
The fact that your friend discovered his profile on a dating app means that you cannot trust your boyfriend. You are better off ending your relationship with him and moving on.
Dating apps work.
The key to success is to have the right approach in how you go about online dating. Your friends that complain about how hard it is for them to match with guys they like on dating apps aren’t creating compelling profiles.
Either that, or they are signed up on dating apps that aren’t a good fit for them. It is actually easier to meet potential dates on dating apps than in real life.
Dating apps provide a large number of dating options. People don’t have these many dating options in real life. It is not even possible to. People don’t run into hundreds of dating options each and every day.
It’s a different story on dating apps. There are hundreds of dating profiles available to choose from.
With this many dating options, it is only a matter of time before someone who is using the right approach receives solid matches. Given that dating is a numbers game, dating apps make it far easier to play that game.
As long as you have a realistic approach to online dating, and do your due diligence to create a good profile and join the right dating apps for you, it is only a matter of time before you find your match.
The people that struggle with online dating are those that think that all they have to do is sign up on any popular dating app, do next to nothing with their profile, and magically they find their soulmate.
That isn’t how dating apps work, and if you have that approach, you are bound to struggle to find good matches just as your friends have.
Single people that post pics of themselves with an ex on dating apps are too lazy to take new photos for their profile. It’s much easier to post old pics that they think they look good in and post them to a dating profile, than go out and take fresh pics.
That said, there are guys on dating apps who purposely post pics of themselves next to an ex. He thinks that by doing this, he shows the girls that see his profile that he has had a history of dating girls and having girlfriends.
He believes that by having pics with a girl next to him, he is indicating that girls are attracted to him, and that he has experience dating girls.
He thinks that this will make him more attractive to girls that see his dating profile because it gives the impression that he is already desirable to women.
Guys who become ex-boyfriends struggle to deal with the emotional repercussions of a breakup. Once a breakup happens, they quickly look for a distraction. Some guys start working on a new project, join a gym, and others find a new girlfriend.
In finding a new girlfriend, he gets to replace you and pretend as though the breakup never happened. His intention is to do everything in his power not to think about the relationship and the breakup. Although it is hurtful to see an ex-boyfriend go straight to dating sites after a difficult breakup, this is how he processes the breakup.
He thinks that by getting on dating sites, the matches he receives will provide a distraction. Getting matches from girls on dating sites gives him a boost to the ego. An ego that has taken a massive hit after going through a breakup with you.
And additionally, he wants to quickly find a new girl to replace you so that he doesn’t have to spend too much time missing you. This new girl won’t be ideal. She would be a rebound girl. Rebound relationships rarely work out because they were inspired by insincerity.
One party is using the other, so as to avoid emotional suffering from a past breakup. Being that rebound relationships rarely work out, it stands to reason that your ex eventually reaches out to you wanting to work things out. This is how it normally plays out.
