By Lucas Owen
Nothing can ruin a sexual experience more than finding yourself at the end of it before you and your partner are ready. A study by acclaimed American biologist, Alfred Kinsey, who founded the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University discovered that about three quarters of men ejaculate within the first two minutes of sexual intercourse in over 50 percent of their sexual encounters. Later studies have also revealed that as many as 75% of men ejaculate within the first 10 minutes of sexual intercourse. The inability to last longer in bed is clearly not an isolated problem. However, there are various ways that you can overcome this problem.
Stop And Start Method
This is where you essentially train yourself. Masturbate and bring yourself to the point of ejaculation, then stop. After a few seconds, start masturbating once again. Bring yourself to the point of ejaculation and then stop. Do this for about 15-20 minutes. This exercise allows you to gain control of your ejaculation. You will also discover that as you practice, the time between each stop gets longer. That’s good because it means that you will last longer in bed as you will be in control of when you choose to ejaculate.
Woman On Top
The most popular sexual position is the missionary. This is where the man lays on top of the woman. Unfortunately, this is also the easiest position to attain a quick ejaculation that ends your sexual encounter prematurely. The woman on top sexual position prevents rapid ejaculation because of the trajectory of the penis. Also, you are typically not in control in this position which also bodes well for how long you last. However, ensure that she moves slowly or with a measured pattern while on top of you.
The Squeeze Method
When you find yourself about to ejaculate, you should apply pressure to the part of your penis that is directly below your glans(the head of the penis). This action essentially puts pressure on your urethra which is the tube that runs on the underside of your penis. This type of pressure prevents the exit of your ejaculate and by sustaining the pressure for a few more seconds, your ejaculatory response will subside.
Some pressure can be applied to your perineum to prevent an ejaculation. The perineum is the area between your scrotum and your anus. You can do it yourself or have your partner do it. Due to the proximity of this area to your prostate gland, it’s highly effective in preventing ejaculation. Your prostate gland is what produces the seminal fluid that you see in ejaculate.
Start Deep Breathing Exercises or Meditate
Start getting into the habit of focusing on your breathing. A great way to do this is to meditate for a few minutes as often as you can. While meditating, focus on your breath. This technique allows you to master your breathing which ultimately lowers your heart rate and consequently your level of excitement. Bring this technique to your sexual encounters by trying to focus on your breathing during intercourse. This helps in two areas. It takes your thoughts away from your orgasm and it levels your rate of excitement, both of which help you last longer in bed.
Avoid Thinking About Your Orgasm
In the heat of the moment, you can get really excited and have nothing but thoughts of your climax in your mind. Start practicing avoidance of these kinds of thoughts while having intercourse. The more you think about your orgasm, the more likely it will arrive a lot sooner than it should. Instead of thinking about your orgasm, direct your thoughts to something else. You can focus on a certain part of her body, look into her eyes, think about stuff that isn’t sexually stimulating or just shut out all of your thoughts completely(this one is a little harder to do). The most important factor here is finding a way to take your mind away from the excitement of the moment and your impending orgasm.
Focus On Bringing Her To Orgasm Before Yourself
When you make it a point to focus on her pleasure first, thoughts of your own pleasure will not be at the forefront. This is tremendously helpful in allowing you to last longer in bed. When you direct your thoughts and actions toward her pleasure first, you will be less likely to climax too soon because your focus would be on something else. Also, the more pleasure you give her, the more confident you become. The more confident you are in the bedroom, the more likely you will last longer in bed.
Drink Lots Of Water Without Going To The Bathroom
This is one of the more tricky methods to help you last longer because it will require that you fill your bladder to some extent. However, it is quite effective. When you drink lots of water before you have sexual intercourse, your body is forced to store the excess water in your bladder until you are ready to release it through urination. This type of bodily control keeps the focus on your bladder and not your seminal ejaculation. Hence, you can control your ejaculation and last longer in bed. The one problem with this method is that you may reach a point during intercourse where you just have to go. However, by then, you would have lasted a lot longer in bed than you would have otherwise.
If you focus on penetrating her vagina for short distances, you will most certainly last longer. The most sensitive area of a vagina is within the first 1 to 2 inches. Hence, this area is where she receives the bulk of her pleasure. You can alternate a few shallow thrusts with a deep one every now and then. However, by maintaining shallow penetration, you are more likely to last longer in bed because you are preventing the entire length of your penis from being stimulated.
By practicing one or more of these methods you can be assured that your sexual encounters will last longer. However, be advised. With your newly found talent, she may ask for another go at it.
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