Online Dating – How To Get Him To Ask You Out

Online Dating – How To Get Him To Ask You OutThere is a guy that you have been communicating with on an online dating site for a while.

The two of you like each other and have quite a few things in common.

Time has passed by and you are both well beyond the initial getting-to-know each other stage.

You think it’s time to meet up with this guy but there is a problem.

He hasn’t asked you out.

Hasn’t even come close.

You wonder why this is.

He says that he is looking for a relationship, the both of you seem to be on the same page, so what’s the problem?

There could be a myriad of reasons why he hasn’t asked you out.

He may be secretly shy, holding a secret or just plain looking for someone to alleviate his boredom.

Whatever the reason, you do not have any more patience left and you feel that it is time for action.

Your Unavailability

In order for you to get him to ask you out, you have to give him the impression that you are not always going to be readily available to him.

The two of you have been really getting along and enjoying each others conversation and this has put him in a comfort zone.

He thinks that you are always going to be readily available to him. 

You have to change this thought process in his head.

How do you do this?

Your Desirability

Engage with other male members that are sending you messages.

Take note of the discussions that you are having with these other male members.

Then when you are communicating with him, start dropping subtle hints about the other men that you are talking to on the online dating site.

You can nonchalantly mention certain details of the conversations that you have had with them.

Use the male attention you are getting to your advantage. 

Subtle Repetition

Do this over and over during the course of the week.

Every time that you mention some detail of the conversation you had with another male member, you will get him thinking.

What exactly is he thinking?

He is beginning to wonder if you are finding these other men on the online dating site more interesting than him.

The more you drop those subtle conversation details, the more insecure of his status he will be.

Remember that he has been communicating with you for a while and has now become accustomed to being priority.

He knows that you enjoy the conversations and has felt secure in his standing.

That sense of security has to waiver.


If you continue doing this for the next few conversations, he will begin to think that he is on the verge of losing his comfortable standing with you.

He has come to the realization that there are now other male members that may be threatening that position.

At this point of realization, he is going to make a decision.

If he truly has been sincere in his interaction with you, he will ask you out in short order.

If there is an unresolved issue(the existence of another real life relationship for example) that he has kept from you which has prevented him from asking you out up until this point, then he will simply start retreating.

In this scenario, you may be losing the guy that you are interested in but this is still a better outcome than having him lead you on.

That’s all you need to do to get him to either ask you out or retreat.

Remember that you began online dating for a reason.

You want to find that special someone.

Hence, you want to make sure that whoever it is that you have been communicating with is as serious as you are.