Long distance relationships online can be very trying. At first, it may feel like things will work out. The both of you have a very intense connection and you rely on your love or fondness of each other to carry you through. However, this love and fondness can only go so far. Unfortunately, many people that embark on an online long distance relationship tend to discover this too late.
Not all online long distance relationships are doomed to fail. However, the majority are. The problem tends to arise when there has simply been too much time apart. Without any real plan to eventually be together permanently in the same physical location, the separation can start to take its’ tow. All of a sudden, all of that love and fondness is beginning to flutter in the wind.
What generally occurs from here on is less and less communication. It becomes harder to try to communicate with someone knowing full well that the sting of your separation will only make you feel worse. As a consequence, you start ignoring those phone calls and emails. You busy yourself with other affairs just hoping that you can get your long distance love out of your mind.
Finally, you give in and return a message. However, by this time, your long distance love has grown weary and may start becoming distant themselves. You make up eventually but the damage has been done. Future interactions are froth with doubt and pain. Ultimately, someone decides that it would better to be just friends. The relationship is over.
Again, there are those who can survive the dreaded long distant online relationship. However, you must have a through-plan for it to work. A through-plan that assures that the both of you will not remain separated for longer than is necessary. Then and only then do you stand the best chance of making this online long distance relationship work.
When you meet someone online and you fall for them, it can be an answer to your prayers. However, it gets complicated when that person so happens to live long distance. Initially, you may enjoy the feeling of finally having found someone but after a while it can become difficult dealing with the distance. There are some good ways you can cope.
Keep Conversations Shorter
It may seem strange to purposely have conversations that are shorter as opposed to longer because this is a person you don’t get to see on a regular basis. However, when you keep conversations at a relatively shorter duration it allows the both of you the opportunity to get excited about the next conversation. Boredom tends to be one of the bigger complaints that people in long distance relationships make. After talking to each other for hours on end per conversation, they run out of stuff to talk about and the conversations get tedious. Keeping those conversations shorter will help prevent this.
Write Personalized Letters
You get so used to doing so much online or through a technological device that you forget that there was a time when no phones, computers and tech gadgets existed. Take a break from technology from time to time and write your long distance significant other a letter. A letter written by hand. This personalized touch will make them feel special. The effect of seeing your handwriting can be very profound because it reminds them of your personality. It is something that they can read again and again and feel closer to you every time they do.
Arrange Virtual Dates
It’s movie night. No need to spend that evening alone crying into your popcorn because you miss your partner. Arrange a date night for the both of you. Grab your popcorn, pop in the movie and share that experience simultaneously over the phone, camera(i.e. skype) or another technological medium. You can experience the movie together, watching it simultaneously, even though you are both physically apart. It’s a profound experience that will draw the both of you closer and give you a shared experience. Make this a regular occurrence in your relationship. It will give the both of you something to look forward to.