Perhaps your friends finally have you convinced after a lot of encouraging and you have now decided to take a bold step and join a dating site.
It’s a step forward that over 30 percent of singles online are taking today.
Now that you have decided to do this, a new point of contention has arrived.
How do you go about choosing the right dating site?
In order to do this you have to ask yourself 5 questions and be very honest about your answers.
Am I Serious Or Merely Curious?
If you honestly answer this question, it can save you a lot of time and wasted energy.
The truth is as much as you might think that you are ready for a relationship, you may or may not be.
If you are finding it difficult to answer this question honestly then you might want to choose a dating site that is a little more lighthearted.
A dating site that has an active community of friends or a forum is a good choice.
This way, while participating in these forums and discussing with various members and learning from their experience, you might eventually discover if indeed you want to stay with that dating site or move on to another dating site that better suits your needs.
How Much Of My Time Am I Willing To Give?
If you are truly serious about starting online dating then you have to answer this question.
What is important to remember is that you get out of online dating what you put into it.
If you are serious about finding a companion then you will have to be active on which ever dating site you choose to go with.
And yes, that means visiting the site more than once a month.
How Much Am I Willing To Spend If Anything?
Yes, there are several free dating sites out there.
If that is the route that you would rather take because you are not willing to spend any money on a dating site then by all means go for it.
However, remember that you get what you pay or in this case, don’t pay for.
If you are looking for a serious long term relationship, you increase your odds tremendously of finding that on a reputable paying site than you do a free site.
Members who have paid money in the hope of finding a compatible companion on a paid dating site have already shown that they are serious about this.
Remember that many of these reputable paying sites will let you use some of their features for free, thereby giving you the opportunity to decide if you want to become a paying member.
And how much should you spend on the right dating site?
Well, how much is what you are looking for worth to you?
What Kind Of Relationship Am I Looking For?
Again, this ties in with the last question on how much you are willing to pay if anything.
You have to be absolutely certain of what you are looking for.
If all you want are frivolous dalliances with other members then you are better off trying a free site.
If you are looking for discreet encounters, then there are premium sites that specialize in that.
If you are looking for friendship, there are sites for that as well, free or paid would work here.
If you are looking for a serious long term relationship, then again, reputable premium dating sites with serious paying members are the way to go.
What Is My Value System?
Answering this question will also save you a lot of heartache.
If your faith or specific ideals are important to you and you would like to find someone who shares the same values, then you have to join a dating site that is geared towards people of the same ilk.
There are some wonderful dating sites online that cater to literally every value system.
Do not make the mistake of joining a dating site which doesn’t cater to your value system and suddenly find yourself being inundated by incompatible matches.
That is a waste of your time and money.