Dating Online – How To Become Exclusive?


By Lucas Owen


The question of exclusivity can be a little complicated when it comes to using dating sites. After having gone on several dates with someone you met on an online dating site, you may be currently at a point where you want to become exclusive with them. The only problem is that you don’t know if your date feels the same way.


The answer to this question really lies in how the both of you feel. You met on the dating site. The two of you have been on several offline dates and formed a romantic bond. At this point, you may think it is time. You may be thinking that you don’t want to go on any more dates with other members. You just want to stick with this one member because you have the best chemistry with them. 

Online Activity

You are noticing that this member is still active on their online dating profile and not only when they are communicating with you. If you joined the dating site in order to find a special person for a long term relationship then you owe it to yourself to ask if that person you are currently dating is willing to date you exclusively.

Q&A has a helpful tool called “Guided Communication.” A section of it called “Learn More About Him/Her” enables its members to be honest with each other about their habits and intentions. Because the “Guided Communication” process requires a back and forth Question and Answer session before eventually moving on to exchanging contact information, it’s a strong litmus test of each member’s true intentions. If, by this point, the two of you have already formed a friendship and obviously have some physical chemistry, there is no reason why the question of becoming exclusive should make you feel awkward in any way. If you want to be exclusive with this person and enough time has elapsed, then you have to summon the courage to ask them about how they feel about being exclusive.

Your Emotional Investment

Falling into a fantasy land and hoping that an exclusive relationship develops naturally is pointless when it has been months, and you know for a fact that the other member is still very active on their online dating profile communicating with other members. You have to do what’s right for you at this point no matter how selfish that may sound. You don’t want to put yourself in a position of investing time and emotion to a person expecting exclusivity with them only to find that they simply can’t do it.

Romantic Goal Realized

Remember that in your earlier discussions on the dating site, the two of you were clear about hoping to find a long term relationship with someone. Things are no different now just because you formed a romantic relationship offline. You are now at a place where you feel like the dating site has served its’ purpose and it’s time to take this relationship to the next level. Hence, you have to do what feels right for you no matter how selfish that sounds.

Is it Mutual?

Find out if the feeling is mutual by asking your date and getting an honest answer. If your date agrees that the feeling is mutual and they want to pursue an exclusive relationship, they will follow certain actions. Those actions will either involve taking their profile off the dating site or making it “non-searchable” so that other members cannot find them.

It is that simple. If you want exclusivity, do not be afraid to ask for it.


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