The question of exclusivity can be a little complicated when it comes to using dating sites.
After having gone on several dates with someone you met on an online dating site, you may be currently at a point where you want to become exclusive with them.
The only problem is that you don’t know if your date feels the same way.
The answer to this question really lies in how the both of you feel.
You met on the dating site.
The two of you have been on several offline dates and formed a romantic bond.
At this point, you may think it is time.
You may be thinking that you don’t want to go on any more dates with other members.
You just want to stick with this one member because you have the best chemistry with them.
You are noticing that this member is still active on their online dating profile and not only when they are communicating with you.
If you joined the dating site in order to find a special person for a long-term relationship then you owe it to yourself to ask if that person you are currently dating is willing to date you exclusively.
This helps to give you a better idea of just how important you are to this person, compared to anyone else that they may be communicating with on the dating site.
Always ask questions that help you get to know this person that much better.
Pay attention to what they tell you in response.
Bring up these topics again in future conversations and observe the answers that you receive.
If you are getting consistent answers, this is a person who is most likely being honest with you and thereby would be a great candidate for an exclusive relationships.
This is especially true, if the both of you have spent a sufficient amount of quality time together and have some true emotional and physical chemistry.
Hence, there is no reason why the question of becoming exclusive should not be brought up.
In fact, it would feel natural to do so.
However, if you receive contradictory answers to what this person has told you in the past, this is a person who is most likely being dishonest with you and thereby wouldn’t be a good candidate to become exclusive with.
Your Emotional Investment
Falling into a fantasy land and hoping that an exclusive relationship develops naturally is pointless when it has been months, and you know for a fact that the other member is still very active on their online dating profile communicating with other members.
You have to do what’s right for you at this point no matter how selfish that may sound.
You don’t want to put yourself in a position of investing time and emotion to a person expecting exclusivity with them only to find that they simply can’t do it.
Romantic Goal Realized
Remember that in your earlier discussions on the dating site, the two of you were clear about hoping to find a long-term relationship with someone.
Things are no different now just because you formed a romantic relationship offline.
You are now at a place where you feel like the dating site has served its’ purpose and it’s time to take this relationship to the next level.
Hence, you have to do what feels right for you no matter how selfish that sounds.
Is it Mutual?
Find out if the feeling is mutual by asking your date and getting an honest answer.
If your date agrees that the feeling is mutual and they want to pursue an exclusive relationship, they will follow certain actions.
Those actions will either involve taking their profile off the dating site or making it “non-searchable” so that other members cannot find them.
It is that simple.
If you want exclusivity, do not be afraid to ask for it.