This girl was the one who asked for your phone number and yet she plays hard to get when you invite her to coffee.
You are scratching your head in bewilderment over this.
Why ask for your phone number only to play hard to get when you invite her to coffee?
She isn’t the sole girl who has done this to you on a dating app after asking for your phone number and having a few conversations with you over the phone.
You have heard multiple responses that make no sense.
Responses like, “We’ll see,” “I’ll think about it,” “I’ll let you know,” or “Maybe.”
It’s not like you sound desperate to get her to ask for your number or get hers when messaging on a dating app.
You don’t insinuate it.
You are having normal conversation.
She is the one who asks for your phone number without prompting.
You have a few conversations with her over the phone, you think that it is time to invite her to coffee and you do, but she plays hard to get and gives the excuses.
Here’s the thing.
She isn’t playing hard to get.
She is giving the excuses because she doesn’t feel the same way about you as she did when you two were texting each other on a dating app.
You sounded different over the phone.
She didn’t like how the conversations went.
You two got along well on a dating app and there was good chemistry.
This is why she asked for your phone number.
Once you two began communicating over the phone, things changed.
You didn’t give off the same energy, vibe or conversational acumen that you did when you were texting her on a dating app.
She wasn’t feeling it.
She gave it a few conversations to be sure, but realized that it wasn’t changing.
You were off somehow.
So, when you invited her to coffee, she gave you an excuse.
It sounds like she is playing hard to get, but don’t forget that there was a reason why she asked for your phone number in the first place.
She was interested.
Interested enough to ask for your phone number.
Once she talked to you over the phone a few times, she didn’t feel the same chemistry she shared with you on a dating app, and lost interest.
It’s not so much that she is playing hard to get, it’s more so that she doesn’t know how to come right out and tell you that she has lost interest.
Lots of girls are like this.
They lose interest in a guy and don’t know how to be straightforward in telling the guy that they have.
Consequently, they use phrases like, “We’ll see,” “I’ll let you know,” etc., in the hopes that the guy gets the picture.
You have to look at how you behave when you are talking to these girls over the phone.
It’s there a marked difference in the energy, vibe and conversational acumen you give off over the phone as opposed to over text on a dating app?
Do you make conversation differently?
She is expecting you to be similar over the phone as you were on a dating app.
Match the same energy, vibe and conversational acumen you give off on a dating app and you won’t have as many girls seemingly playing hard to get when you invite them to coffee over the phone.